How to talk to your kids about divorce: 4 tips

On Behalf of | Dec 27, 2022 | Custody & Parenting

The topic of divorce was likely difficult to bring up with your spouse, but it may be even harder to talk to your children about it. You shouldn’t delay talking to them, since, eventually, they’ll learn that you and your spouse are getting a divorce. 

So, how do you talk to your children about divorce? When talking to your children about divorce, there are a few things to keep in mind. Here’s what you should know:

1. Consider your children’s ages 

Depending on the ages of your children, you’re going to have a drastically different approach. You’ll likely need to keep the conversation simple if your children are below nine years of age. If they’re older and in their adolescent years, then you may need to consider a complex conversation that includes more details about the divorce. 

2. Talk as a family

It’ll likely be good for your children to comprehend the situation if you and your spouse talk as a family. Having everyone together may give your children the chance to ask questions and understand the seriousness of the situation.

3. Don’t let your kids blame themselves

Children have a tendency to go through an age where they blame themselves for others’ problems. As such, your children may believe that your divorce was caused by them. You should talk to them and discuss that they weren’t the cause of your divorce.

4. Talk about what’ll change

If you and your spouse have some idea about what will happen after the divorce with confidence, then you may consider talking to your children about what they should expect. If there are plans still being made, then you should consider not discussing anything more than you’re sure about.

If you’re still planning out your divorce, and you have children to consider, then you may need to know your legal options.

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