What can you do when your spouse wants a divorce?

On Behalf of | Jul 11, 2024 | Divorce

You may not have expected your spouse to ask for a divorce when they said they needed to talk to you. Or you may have expected the conversation, perhaps your marriage has had some issues, but you were not ready for it.

Regardless of the situation, you should watch your next moves. You don’t want to make decisions that can negatively impact your divorce process or your relationship.

Here are three things to consider doing:

Do not act out 

You should not act out when your spouse asks for a divorce. These include arguing, partying irresponsibly, being disrespectful, manipulating them, spying on them, pleading with them and so on. It’s crucial to stay calm. 

Additionally, be cooperative. For example, when discussing your living arrangements before the divorce is finalized, do not make unfair decisions or criticize their suggestions. Further, when your spouse informs you about their concerns, you should not disregard them. They should know they can comfortably talk to you about any divorce-related matters.

Your spouse may be in pain as you are despite them initiating the divorce. Acting out can push them even further, which can make your divorce complicated.

Give them space

Whether or not you and your spouse agree to remain in the family home during the divorce, you should give them space. Avoid calling them, asking about their whereabouts and so on.

Consider therapy

Going to therapy as soon as your spouse asks for a divorce can protect your mental well-being significantly. Couples counseling can also benefit you and your spouse during such a challenging time.

You should be extra careful about your actions when your spouse breaks the divorce news whether you want to save the marriage or are ready to go through with the divorce. Get legal guidance to avoid costly mistakes. 

 

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