Parents who make the decision to divorce have to determine how they’re going to tell their children. This is often one of the most difficult conversations they’ll ever have, but it’s one that can’t be avoided if the divorce is going to move forward.
If you’re in this position, you need to be sure that you have a plan for telling your children. This isn’t something you can just blurt out. These tips may be beneficial as you prepare for this conversation.
Consider having both parents present
If possible, you and your ex should tell the children together. Even though they may not realize it, having both parents there shows the children that they still have both parents’ support.
Choose an appropriate place and time
You should choose a quiet and private location to have this talk with your kids. You also need to choose a time when you won’t have to rush. These conversations can be filled with emotions, and it may take a while to explain everything in an age-appropriate manner.
Prepare for difficult questions
Your children will likely have questions about how life will be after the divorce. Be truthful, but don’t say anything you aren’t sure you can keep up with. They may also question the reason for the divorce. If that’s the case, be sure you don’t say anything that could be taken as blaming each other.
It may be beneficial if you and your ex can have a simple parenting plan when you talk to the children. This gives both parents an idea of how custody will work, and both parents can follow it since it’s in writing. Getting that parenting plan together can be difficult, so it might be worth discussing this with someone familiar with the process.
